I just read Robin's blog right now and I thought I should post something from it.
"Life's counter-intuitive. The things that we most resist carry the seeds of our greatness. The stuff that makes us feel uncomfortable makes us stronger. And the things that are hard to do help us get to our authentic power. Difficult is Good..." (
read the rest)
So many times in life I have seen myself run away/avoid things under the pretext like "I don't like it" or "I am not in the mood", when actually the real reason is that I am simply afraid. It takes a little effort to accept that I am actually afraid. It's a feeling (like all other feelings) that needs to be acknowledged.
There is no question of whether "I should be feeling this?" or "is this right/wrong?" You are feeling it so that's that - acknowledge it. Feel it. A lot of times I realize what a unique situation I am in. I find myself secretly laughing at myself or at God's humor. If you resist the feeling then it is going to persist. Just like guy who tried to quit smoking 7 times before it actually became a joke.
Once I get over the difficult part of recognizing & acknowledging my fear, I find that the what's & the how's fall in place. Why is even simpler? Because if you "
run towards your fears and a beautiful life will follow" (from one of Robin's podcasts)
Ayn Rand in one of her books says that if you find yourself at a fork in the road, just pick the more difficult option, you are bound to pick the correct one. It's an interesting point of view, and I think of it when I am stuck. I don't use it as a rational for/against argument, but it does help me check to what extent my emotions are playing a role in my decision making. Also importantly, it makes me smile in the situation.
Another effective tool that religions have used to help people fight their fears is to make them realize that they are mortals. We live life thinking "I" will live for forever. If you spend 2 seconds in the morning, even when you are brushing your teeth and remind yourself - "I am a mortal" then the trick is done. You would push yourself to lead a more fuller life. Suddenly it becomes easier to say "I am sorry", or "it was my mistake" or to admit to yourself that you am scared.